Relationships, Karma, Reflection & Healing




I recently presented a workshop called Relationships, Karma and Healing. I truly believe (from my own experiences) that for our own self-development, spiritual expansion, growth and evolution it is necessary to understand why we have the relationships we do and what these relationships reflect and show us about ourselves. It is a gateway to knowing to ourselves completely.


Relationships can be a great catalyst for inner transformation as we are 'shown' by what is reflected to us by another our unseen and unhealed wounds within. We can also witness and see our beauty, talents, uniqueness and divinity when we are in healthier relationships.


The Law of Cause and Effect, the Law of Reflection and the Law of Attraction all intersect with each other in relationships. Working with these laws consciously can help us to create the relationships and lives that we would truly like, but for this to occur we need to do the inner work.



We live on a planet that is ruled by many universal laws and one of them is the Law of Cause and Effect, also known as karma. There are negative connotations around the word karma as it can be thought of as a justice system where punishment is handed out for 'misdemeanours'. It is actually a gateway to meet other parts of ourselves that are unhealed, so in truth, it is a path to becoming whole. If we did not have karma and the Law of Reflection we would not have the same opportunity to heal and meet these other parts of ourselves and bring them into oneness. As we heal different aspects of us, we have the capacity to completely change our lives and ourselves in miraculous ways.


What is the Universal Law of Cause and Effect/karma?


Basically it is an accumulation of all our energy that we have created through our words, thoughts, deeds, and actions in every moment of the day, throughout our lifetime and previous lifetimes and dimensions. It is simply an energy, so whatever energy we give out; happy, loving energy is what we receive back. If we give out unhappy, resentful energy this is what we receive back.


What is the Universal Law of Reflection?


Also known as the Law of Mirroring, which I think is a really apt term! It means that anytime you are triggered or have some type of reaction to someone it is due to a part of you that holds similar energy. I liken it to an inner magnet, we magnetize people to us that hold a similar energetic magnet. For example:


My mother is always criticizing me - the reflection is:

I criticize myself


My boss makes me feel inadequate - the reflection is:

I believe I am inadequate


My girlfriend demeans me - the reflection is:

I demean myself


My friends take advantage of my kindness - the reflection is:

I allow my friends to take advantage of me